It is impossible to describe here the whole gamut of issues that
can make friction among Boards and neighbors possible, but you
can imagine a lot of them, from money administration issues, to
either flag o no flag waving, to (grand) children accepted or
prevented from sharing the condo, to pets being either included
in the household or rejected, to be allowed to leave up their
shutters after hurricane season or not, to any kind of behaviors
based on prejudices against who is “not one of us,” by national
origin or color, and so on and on.
Few of us enjoy dealing with conflicts-either with bosses,
peers, subordinates, neighbors, or strangers. This is
particularly true when the conflict becomes very hostile and
when strong feelings become involved. Resolving conflict, the
one that generates in our own home situation, can be mentally
exhausting and emotionally draining.
But it is important to realize that conflict that requires
immediate resolution is neither good nor bad, it is only a call
for attention to relationship issues. Conflict can be
destructive if we play to destroy, control or humiliate the
other seen as an “enemy” but can also play a productive role for
enhancing our relationships-both personal and professional.
The important point is to manage the condo differences seeking a
middle ground, not to suppress conflict or to let conflict
escalate out of control. Many of us seek to avoid conflict when
it arises, but there are many times when we should use conflict
as a critical impulse for creating new conditions that serve us
and our community better.
In fact, there is everyday a strong demand for interpersonal
skills to deal successfully with those former estrangers that
now share our space and make decisions with us. We should be
given some conflict resolution skills training when approved by
the Board as new members, to assure a smooth inclusion process
in the already particular culture of our new condo association.
Of course, this assuming that such Board already has mastered
the right skills and can conduct excellent meetings with respect
and inclusion of all interested parties!
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